What was yours like? What, if any, impressions about how parents were did you get from the experience you had with your parents?
I always find it odd that I'm considered my father's favorite because as a child, you could sure never tell it from my perspective. I was always getting in trouble and ALWAYS getting yelled at, and I HATE that, even to this day I hate being yelled at. And as a result of how things were between us, I never bought it when I saw a TV ad with a father and daughter and they were happy together. There was some kind shown at Christmas with parents with their kids as they unwrap their toys, and the ones where it was a father and daughter and they seemed so happy, that to me was not reality. As a child I was like 'no, he's not yelling at her, dads aren't nice like that'. Towards boys perhaps but not the daughters, that to me was just pure fiction and it took me a few years to figure out that there were fathers who got along with their kids and were obviously nice to them, that you could tell they loved their kids.
Now, my relationship with my mother was an exact opposite because from being around her, I was to the idea that mothers knew everything and they could solve any problem and even if they themselves didn't know how to do something they would know who could. She and I always got along VERY well and we still do, though not as much now because I've grown and got my own life and my own preferences and opinions, but we're still very close. And I learned pretty early on not to ask my father for much of anything, he would say no, so to ask my mother because she was more lenient. As a kid it just always seemed she always knew how to do everything right, and he did so maybe 50% of the time.
I always find it odd that I'm considered my father's favorite because as a child, you could sure never tell it from my perspective. I was always getting in trouble and ALWAYS getting yelled at, and I HATE that, even to this day I hate being yelled at. And as a result of how things were between us, I never bought it when I saw a TV ad with a father and daughter and they were happy together. There was some kind shown at Christmas with parents with their kids as they unwrap their toys, and the ones where it was a father and daughter and they seemed so happy, that to me was not reality. As a child I was like 'no, he's not yelling at her, dads aren't nice like that'. Towards boys perhaps but not the daughters, that to me was just pure fiction and it took me a few years to figure out that there were fathers who got along with their kids and were obviously nice to them, that you could tell they loved their kids.
Now, my relationship with my mother was an exact opposite because from being around her, I was to the idea that mothers knew everything and they could solve any problem and even if they themselves didn't know how to do something they would know who could. She and I always got along VERY well and we still do, though not as much now because I've grown and got my own life and my own preferences and opinions, but we're still very close. And I learned pretty early on not to ask my father for much of anything, he would say no, so to ask my mother because she was more lenient. As a kid it just always seemed she always knew how to do everything right, and he did so maybe 50% of the time.
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