If your young teenage son was involved with a grown woman.

wants2laugh wrote:


Either way the woman gets stuck raising the kid herself. Let's face it, if an adult man WANTED a baby, he would have gotten with an adult woman, so he would disappear. If a 14yr old boy impregnates an adult woman (who obviously has mental problems), the woman would be the one raising the child---as i do not believe that a 14yr old would be going out to support the baby.

So the responses on this board just prove that there is still a chauvinist double standard out there---- it AMAZES me! For a group of people who are supposed to be so progressive and forward thinking... that they would actually think differently between the 14yr old's sex---just amazing.

Impact wrote:If my 14 year old son was shagging a 30 year old woman, I would find it upsetting and I'd put my foot down about it not continuing...but, truthfully, I wouldn't be as dagger mad about it as I would if it was my 14 year old daughter with a 30 year old man. Teenage girls tend to have sex when the guy they're in love with convinces them that the feeling is mutual and that their love can be that much greater once they seal the deal. And a 30 year old man could easily manipulate a teenage girl into thinking that they're in love just to get sex out of them. Teenage boys can be flaky and naive about love and manipulated by older women too, but it's doubtful that she had to coax him into sleeping with her. Both statutory rape scenarios are unacceptable, but a boy with a woman is just a little less appalling.

femme fatale wrote:LOL@all the guys in this thread admitting that it wouldn't bother them (as much) if their sons went carrying on with adult women but would blow their tops if it was the other way around with their daughters. I don't know if I should admire the honesty or be put off by the hypocrisy. NO 14 year old boy or girl is ready for sex and ANY adult man or woman who messes around with one is taking advantage and being abusive. There's no way around that. Doesn't matter how stiff a 14 year old boys dingaling gets or how much he might like enjoy a 25 year old woman. It ain't healthy and she's a predator.

femme fatale wrote:... NO 14 year old boy or girl is ready for sex and ANY adult man or woman who messes around with one is taking advantage and being abusive. There's no way around that...

Shale wrote:

Again, with these absolutes!

NO 14-year-old is ready for sex?

So, you discount that there can be an exception - that some 14 year olds might be ready for sex?

ANY adult who messes around with one is taking advantage or being abusive?

OK, I already told the other ABSOLUTIST that my momma was banging a 23-year-old guy when she was 14. Fact is, she set it up to escape from a bad homelife and my poor drunk dad got on the train thinking he was going to be travelling from St. Louis to Mississippi with a grown woman. About Memphis he discovered that he had broken Federal law by transporting a minor. As soon as they got to MS, they got married. I came into the pic about 11 months later - so she may not have been fucking him before the official shotgun wedding.

So, YES my momma was ready for sex at 14 and NO my 23-year-old dad was not taking advantage of her or being abusive.

RedBedroom wrote:

The desire to escape a bad home life does not equate to being ready to begin a sexual relationship. I am not trying to dismiss or discount your parent's relationship. That said, you haven't said anything to indicate their pairing began as a great love affair by two people ready to begin a family together.

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule when it comes to anything. There are 14 year olds enrolled in college classes. Does that mean that the average 14 year old can flourish in a college setting? No. And just because there are some 14 year olds who find an older mate and stay with them for years does not mean that is right or appropriate for the majority of 14 year olds. That is the point I think most speaking against this are trying to make.

wants2laugh wrote:It isnt even a matter of whether or not it happens... of course it happens.... if anyone has ever seen Coal Miner's Daughter, then you know loretta lynn got married at 13 and pregnant right away. My own grandmother got married at 15 and had a baby at 16. Her husband was an old man compared to her, and wound up cheating on her with someone his own age. He had wanted someone to clean his house, cook his meals, and give him sex. When he wanted a real relationship he looked elsewhere, leaving my grandmother worse off when he found her, cause now she had a baby to care for.

The thing is.... these are not the best situations for our CHILDREN to be involved. So why not discourage, and prevent it?

Chris wrote:Would you be as quick to prosecute a grown woman whom you discovered your fourteen year old son was having an affair with as you would if it was a grown man with your daughter?

Supernova wrote:
And what about cases where girls don't have to be coaxed into sleeping with men old enough to be their fathers? Such girls DO exist hard as that might be to believe, they're not all poor innocent naive little damsels if we're going to get into matters of 'regardless of the statutory rape laws'.

Suzi wrote:I have to say at 14 my son was still a little boy, he didn't hit 5 foot until he was nearly 16 years old. Then he grew a foot in one year.Eventually topped out at 6'4". But if some woman had tried to have sex with him I would have killed her the same as I would have a man trying to have sex with my 14 year old girls who actually looked much older than he did.

RedBedroom wrote:Fourteen is way too young for a boy to be with an adult woman, even if the woman is as young as 18. At 14, boys are too immature to fully comprehend all the implications coming along with sex and if a boy is screwing some adult woman, he in no way can trust he won't have a 14 year old himself in 14 years.

Suzi wrote:I have to say at 14 my son was still a little boy, he didn't hit 5 foot until he was nearly 16 years old. Then he grew a foot in one year.Eventually topped out at 6'4". But if some woman had tried to have sex with him I would have killed her the same as I would have a man trying to have sex with my 14 year old girls who actually looked much older than he did.

captainbryce wrote:You know what I think...I think WOMEN are emotionally attached to their sons (especially when they still look at them like little boys) and it is that emotional attachment that compels the need to seek revenge against the woman who steals him away. I think men don't care as much about this as women do because men recognize that every 14 year old boys wants to have sex with a grown woman, just like he did when he was 14.

Nystyle709 wrote:Every one does? Every man did? For real?

captainbryce wrote:No, not for real because I don't see the word "every" in my post.

You know what I think...I think WOMEN are emotionally attached to their
sons (especially when they still look at them like little boys) and it
is that emotional attachment that compels the need to seek revenge
against the woman who steals him away. I think men don't care as much
about this as women do because men recognize that every 14 year old boys
wants to have sex with a grown woman, just like he did when he was 14.

It's a generlization - meaning "generally speaking" and it seems to be backed up by the responses on this thread. Everyone who would "prosecute" is a woman, and everyone who wouldn't is a man. Just sayin...