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Loaded questions

Chris

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Loaded questions

by Chris Tue Aug 14, 2012 11:49 am

How do you handle it when people ask you loaded questions, such as:
'Do I look fat?'
'Have I gained weight?'
'Do you consider me attractive?'

If your opinion is the negative, what do you usually say?

Tony Marino

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Re: Loaded questions

by Tony Marino Tue Aug 14, 2012 12:07 pm

I say whatever I think they want to hear in some situations.

Alan Smithee

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Re: Loaded questions

by Alan Smithee Tue Aug 14, 2012 2:54 pm

Chris wrote:How do you handle it when people ask you loaded questions, such as:
'Do I look fat?'
'Have I gained weight?'
'Do you consider me attractive?'

If your opinion is the negative, what do you usually say?

I dunno...does this shirt make me look stupid?

RedBedroom

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Re: Loaded questions

by RedBedroom Tue Aug 14, 2012 2:57 pm

I normally tell them what they want to hear. But if it is a good friend, I will issue honest advice or opinion.

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Re: Loaded questions

by Shale Tue Aug 14, 2012 3:08 pm

Chris wrote:How do you handle it when people ask you loaded questions, such as:
'Do I look fat?'
'Have I gained weight?'
'Do you consider me attractive?'

If your opinion is the negative, what do you usually say?

Sounds like someone in a relationship with a woman.

Men don't tend to ask those kinda questions.

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Re: Loaded questions

by Nystyle709 Tue Aug 14, 2012 5:59 pm

I tell the truth, for the most part. You asked.

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Re: Loaded questions

by wants2laugh Wed Aug 15, 2012 6:00 am

Men DO ask those kinds of questions.. especially Virgo men (go figure.. just one thing i found to be true with astrology lol)

I say "Does it really matter? Is anyone else going to pay your mortgage? if not, what do you care what others think-- decide on ur own"

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Re: Loaded questions

by wants2laugh Wed Aug 15, 2012 6:00 am

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Re: Loaded questions

by Nhaiyel Thu Aug 16, 2012 1:01 pm

It depends on the urgency of the inquiry. If I think they're adjusted enough to hear the truth, then I'll tell them. But if they're asking me in some neurotic, paranoid or desperate manner, then I'll try and be nice. I won't lie, but I'll water it down to keep them from going into hysterics.