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    Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

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    Sex Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

    Post by Chris Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:45 am

    Have you and your SO ever discussed your sexual pasts? If so, were you totally honest, or did you hold back?
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    Post by Supernova Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:46 am

    I would because I would want to know if the dude's a revolving door or whatever. It can only take one time to get something from somebody but if they've got a long track record they need to be honest about that too.
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    Post by Cheaps Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:52 am

    Honest for the most part, but they don't need to know everything.
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    Post by Suzi Mon Aug 27, 2012 2:09 am

    We were married long before the advent of Aids. I had no experience and he had slightly more (thank goodness!). It wasn't really necessary to even discuss his partners.
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    Sex Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

    Post by Alan Smithee Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:12 am

    We both knew each of us weren't virgins when we met. That was enough.
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    Post by tmontyb Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:22 am

    Alan Smithee wrote:We both knew each of us weren't virgins when we met. That was enough.

    This! We were starting brand new. The past is the past.
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    Sex Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

    Post by Shale Mon Aug 27, 2012 9:10 am

    I knew Brenda had been married twice (Actually, she was still married & estranged from her abusive husband and we had to negate that marriage before we got married).

    She had gone thru the sexual revolution just like me - it was a given that we both had multiple sexual partners. No need for details, except that some of mine were guys, which I told her.
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    Post by Tony Marino Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:30 am

    Here and there and yes I was honest. Its not something to dwell on the past is the past.
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    Post by Marc™ Mon Aug 27, 2012 5:58 pm

    Don't think I ever had a sit down convo with somebody over it, but I never tried to deny or play down that I DO have a sexual past.
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    Post by Nystyle709 Mon Aug 27, 2012 10:35 pm

    Yes and I didn't go into explicit detail.
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    Sex Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

    Post by wants2laugh Tue Aug 28, 2012 12:27 am

    The only one i have been open with is chris. there is one person that I denied doing just cause he hates him. but we have had the discussion "what was the best sexual experience you ever had? the weirdest thing someone ever asked you to do? what would you like to do again, or try exploring in more detail?"

    I think this just creates closeness and intimacy.
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    Sex Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?

    Post by CatEyes10736 Tue Aug 28, 2012 2:05 pm

    No not really. I have casually talked about past relationships in passing but never went into any explicit detail about past sexual activity, unless it was something that was specifically asked.
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    Post by Jason B. Tue Aug 28, 2012 3:28 pm

    In generals but not specifics. It's better that way imo. Unless they were engaging in high risk behavior I'm not all that interested in knowing about every little nasty thing they did before I came along (nor am I that keen on divulging my past whorish moments either). blushing
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    Post by Nhaiyel Tue Aug 28, 2012 4:20 pm

    CatEyes10736 wrote:No not really. I have casually talked about past relationships in passing but never went into any explicit detail about past sexual activity, unless it was something that was specifically asked.

    yeah that…
    For the most part guys don't really want to know about all the freaky stuff their women did before they met, that's more a woman thing…wanting to know the details about what he did with her…but personally, I'm not that interested. So that has never really been an issue for me.
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    Post by Shale Tue Aug 28, 2012 4:24 pm

    Every lover I am with now should enjoy that they benefit from the experience I have had with every lover in the past. Blue Cool
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    Post by RedBedroom Tue Aug 28, 2012 9:04 pm

    The only thing I was ever curious/nosey about was his first time. It was a pretty boring story!
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