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Have you and your SO ever discussed your sexual pasts? If so, were you totally honest, or did you hold back?
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Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
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I would because I would want to know if the dude's a revolving door or whatever. It can only take one time to get something from somebody but if they've got a long track record they need to be honest about that too.
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Honest for the most part, but they don't need to know everything.
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We were married long before the advent of Aids. I had no experience and he had slightly more (thank goodness!). It wasn't really necessary to even discuss his partners.
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by Alan Smithee Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:12 am
We both knew each of us weren't virgins when we met. That was enough.
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Alan Smithee wrote:We both knew each of us weren't virgins when we met. That was enough.
This! We were starting brand new. The past is the past.
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I knew Brenda had been married twice (Actually, she was still married & estranged from her abusive husband and we had to negate that marriage before we got married).
She had gone thru the sexual revolution just like me - it was a given that we both had multiple sexual partners. No need for details, except that some of mine were guys, which I told her.
She had gone thru the sexual revolution just like me - it was a given that we both had multiple sexual partners. No need for details, except that some of mine were guys, which I told her.
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by Tony Marino Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:30 am
Here and there and yes I was honest. Its not something to dwell on the past is the past.
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Don't think I ever had a sit down convo with somebody over it, but I never tried to deny or play down that I DO have a sexual past.
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by Nystyle709 Mon Aug 27, 2012 10:35 pm
Yes and I didn't go into explicit detail.
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by wants2laugh Tue Aug 28, 2012 12:27 am
The only one i have been open with is chris. there is one person that I denied doing just cause he hates him. but we have had the discussion "what was the best sexual experience you ever had? the weirdest thing someone ever asked you to do? what would you like to do again, or try exploring in more detail?"
I think this just creates closeness and intimacy.
I think this just creates closeness and intimacy.
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by CatEyes10736 Tue Aug 28, 2012 2:05 pm
No not really. I have casually talked about past relationships in passing but never went into any explicit detail about past sexual activity, unless it was something that was specifically asked.
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In generals but not specifics. It's better that way imo. Unless they were engaging in high risk behavior I'm not all that interested in knowing about every little nasty thing they did before I came along (nor am I that keen on divulging my past whorish moments either). 
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CatEyes10736 wrote:No not really. I have casually talked about past relationships in passing but never went into any explicit detail about past sexual activity, unless it was something that was specifically asked.
For the most part guys don't really want to know about all the freaky stuff their women did before they met, that's more a woman thing…wanting to know the details about what he did with her…but personally, I'm not that interested. So that has never really been an issue for me.
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Every lover I am with now should enjoy that they benefit from the experience I have had with every lover in the past. 
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Re: Do/did you ask your SO about their sexual past?
by RedBedroom Tue Aug 28, 2012 9:04 pm
The only thing I was ever curious/nosey about was his first time. It was a pretty boring story!
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