I get so sick when the anti-spanking group goes into 'if you have to make your child fear you, you're a terrible parent, you shouldn't use fear to make your child behave'. To these people I have to say get real, fear is a part of life.
The whole reason most of us don't do the dumbass things we think about doing which could probably kill us or otherwise ruin our lives IS because of fear. I don't buy that the reason most people don't break the law is because they have such a high, upstanding respect for those laws. More likely, they are afraid of being caught, arrested, thrown in jail and becoming somebody's girlfriend in there.
Actually this reminds me of an episode of Golden Girls when they went to a psychiatrist and Sophia was mad because the shrink told them 'we're afraid because our mothers taught us to be afraid', and Dorothy replies 'for survival, Ma, they had to, what's a mother supposed to say? 'Don't be afraid of strangers? Eat their candy, get into their cars?'
What's everybody else think? Personally I think in raising kids there does have to be an initiative sense of fear in order for there to be respect, because it's going to come to a time where the kid is going to push you to see if you mean business, and if you don't, they're going to get it in their head they can walk all over you and if you don't do anything to deter that train of thought, do you really think they'll grow up respecting the rules and the adults being in charge and not them?
The whole reason most of us don't do the dumbass things we think about doing which could probably kill us or otherwise ruin our lives IS because of fear. I don't buy that the reason most people don't break the law is because they have such a high, upstanding respect for those laws. More likely, they are afraid of being caught, arrested, thrown in jail and becoming somebody's girlfriend in there.
Actually this reminds me of an episode of Golden Girls when they went to a psychiatrist and Sophia was mad because the shrink told them 'we're afraid because our mothers taught us to be afraid', and Dorothy replies 'for survival, Ma, they had to, what's a mother supposed to say? 'Don't be afraid of strangers? Eat their candy, get into their cars?'
What's everybody else think? Personally I think in raising kids there does have to be an initiative sense of fear in order for there to be respect, because it's going to come to a time where the kid is going to push you to see if you mean business, and if you don't, they're going to get it in their head they can walk all over you and if you don't do anything to deter that train of thought, do you really think they'll grow up respecting the rules and the adults being in charge and not them?
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