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    Breastfeeding a kid until they're 8 yrs old?

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    Post by CatEyes10736 Mon Mar 28, 2011 3:52 pm

    I just saw a video online where a mom admits to still breastfeeding her kids even though they're 8 yrs old. Why she allows it? Well, she believes a child should decide for themselves when to stop. Anyways, here's the video if you want to check it out



    Would you continue breastfeeding your kids until they decided to stop, ladies? Or do you think she's nuts?
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    Post by jennab85 Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:03 pm

    I don't have kids but I would stop breastfeeding a child at least 1 years old. I remember reading about a woman in England who was still breastfeeding her kids at age 11.
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    Post by RobbieFTW Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:09 pm

    WTF???? LMAO!
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    Post by Nhaiyel Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:24 pm

    That woman has over-attachment issues, and she's passing them onto her kids. It's up to a mother to decide when the right time is to wean them off the nipple for good. Else they'll never want to stop.
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    Post by Supernova Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:26 pm

    I think it's disgusting. It's said that a child should stop seeing its parents naked by the time they're 4, so why should they still be feeding on mommy's tit at twice that age? I think I'd be stopping around the time their teeth come in so they can start on solid baby foods.
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    Post by TPP Mon Mar 28, 2011 7:23 pm

    I do let my children decide when to stop. That's what is recommended by the AAP, the WHO and pretty much all bfing advocates. The average age of weaning around the world is four so this woman is outside of the "norm" and I have seen her video, posted by people who are uncomfortable with bfing as fodder for their anti-bfing agenda over and over again.

    There's nothing "wrong" with what she's doing, but I wish that she wouldn't distract from the real issues that bfing women face. The fact is that women are treated like there is something wrong with them for nursing once their kids have teeth, for nursing in public, for nursing once their kid can "ask for it" (mine could ask when they were 6 months old, well before the age of 2 which is the minimum age that a kid should be weaned for optimum health according to all the sources mentioned above).

    So she is nursing her kid who is 8, I wouldn't do it but I think it's a much bigger deal that some kids are never bf at all.

    We are told to bf exclusively to 6 months, add solids and continue bfing after that until 12 months, and toddlers should be on "table" food & breast milk after that until age two and then as long as MUTUALLY desired after that. Most woman aren't comfortable nursing an 8 yo, as I'm not, and most kids don't want to nurse that long anyway.

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    Post by Nystyle709 Mon Mar 28, 2011 7:28 pm

    I laughed. However though, that's the beauty of the woman's body. It will produce milk for as long as it needs to to feed her baby. Her baby will never go hungry. Can't hate on that. She prob. does have attachment issues or whatever else though. I will never entertain breastfeeding that long. If my kid can pop out my tit on its own to feed him/herself, it's not a good look. Time to give it up. Neutral
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    Post by Shale Mon Mar 28, 2011 9:49 pm

    Supernova wrote:... It's said that a child should stop seeing its parents naked by the time they're 4, ...

    Who said that?

    On what was it based?

    I know quite healthy well adjusted kids who have seen their naked parents all their lives. So, whoever said that was full of shit.
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    Post by Supernova Mon Mar 28, 2011 9:51 pm

    Shale wrote:
    Supernova wrote:... It's said that a child should stop seeing its parents naked by the time they're 4, ...

    Who said that?

    On what was it based?

    I know quite healthy well adjusted kids who have seen their naked parents all their lives. So, whoever said that was full of shit.


    I think it's kind of stupid too...that was from one of those advice columns in the newspaper, Annie's Mailbox I think, they said siblings should stop bathing together at 7, and children should stop seeing their parents undressed and/or bathing with them at 4, why that is I don't know, but I still think it's weird beyond hell to still be nursing at 8 years old, the kid by that time is LONG since capable of eating real food.
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    Post by Shale Mon Mar 28, 2011 9:54 pm

    Supernova wrote:
    Shale wrote:

    Who said that?

    On what was it based?

    I know quite healthy well adjusted kids who have seen their naked parents all their lives. So, whoever said that was full of shit.


    I think it's kind of stupid too...that was from one of those advice columns in the newspaper, Annie's Mailbox I think, they said siblings should stop bathing together at 7, and children should stop seeing their parents undressed and/or bathing with them at 4, why that is I don't know, but I still think it's weird beyond hell to still be nursing at 8 years old, the kid by that time is LONG since capable of eating real food.

    IDK who writes Ann Landers column after she died, but I often took her to task for some of her lame advice based on 1950's era prejudices. She had a prob with nudity among other things and actually gave dangerous advice. The papers should have printed disclaimers on her column. Oh yeah, I trash dead ppl - if they deserve it.
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    Post by Jason B. Mon Mar 28, 2011 10:07 pm

    Supernova wrote:I think it's disgusting. It's said that a child should stop seeing its parents naked by the time they're 4, so why should they still be feeding on mommy's tit at twice that age? I think I'd be stopping around the time their teeth come in so they can start on solid baby foods.

    co-signs Not only disgusting, but co-dependent too. IMO kids shouldn't be breastfed after 2 years old. The way this lady is going, her 8 year old will be in middle school still wanting to nurse.
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    Post by TPP Mon Mar 28, 2011 10:23 pm

    Jason B. wrote:
    Supernova wrote:I think it's disgusting. It's said that a child should stop seeing its parents naked by the time they're 4, so why should they still be feeding on mommy's tit at twice that age? I think I'd be stopping around the time their teeth come in so they can start on solid baby foods.

    co-signs Not only disgusting, but co-dependent too. IMO kids shouldn't be breastfed after 2 years old. The way this lady is going, her 8 year old will be in middle school still wanting to nurse.

    based on ??? I'm currently bf'ing my two 2 yo's, they were preemies so do I get a pass?

    Oh, wait. It doesn't matter if you think I do or not. I'm not going around saying stuff like "IMO you shouldn't be eating that burger because you're too fat" or "IMO you shouldn't be feeding your kid that pizza because it's not good for them"...Why do people think that they should have an opinion about how long someone else nurses their children for? Its food.

    Not trying to be mean or argumentative. I just don't think it's fair that women are told what is best for their babies/toddlers/children and then they are judged by the public at large for doing it.
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    Post by Jason B. Mon Mar 28, 2011 10:42 pm

    Why shouldn't I get to have an opinion of it? I'm not going around pulling kids off their mothers chests, but this lady agreed to tell her story on video and probably knows that her breast feeding practice isn't common. She can do whatever she wants, but if she's going to put her business in the media, then she's putting herself and kids out there for judgment. IMO the image of that lanky 8 year old girl in her mothers lap, sucking on her breast looked silly and her explanation for why was even sillier. Once more, I'm not telling her what to do because I don't have the authority, but I see nothing wrong with having a negative opinion of what she puts out there.
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    Post by TPP Mon Mar 28, 2011 11:19 pm

    Jason B. wrote:Why shouldn't I get to have an opinion of it? I'm not going around pulling kids off their mothers chests, but this lady agreed to tell her story on video and probably knows that her breast feeding practice isn't common. She can do whatever she wants, but if she's going to put her business in the media, then she's putting herself and kids out there for judgment. IMO the image of that lanky 8 year old girl in her mothers lap, sucking on her breast looked silly and her explanation for why was even sillier. Once more, I'm not telling her what to do because I don't have the authority, but I see nothing wrong with having a negative opinion of what she puts out there.

    I was commenting more on your opinion that they shouldn't be bf after age two than I was on the lady in the video. This video has been around for at least 3 years, so I'm sure she isn't going around reading what people say about it anymore...Of course you're entitled to your opinion, but I think that it's important to understand that no matter what anyone thinks about bfing past a certain age, women are told to do it until at least age two and I don't think it's fair for them to be judged just for doing what is recommended for the health of their children.

    It feels the same as judging a pregnant woman for gaining the recommended amount of weight...

    IDk, I wish that there was a more "guy" friendly analogy that I could think of because I don't know if you can relate or not...

    But it's like we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. If we don't bf then we're not doing what is best for our children (and you can ask any mom who formula feed's today, they feel really judged too!), if we do bf (for the amount of time that everyone agrees is the most healthy) then we're weirdo's with attachment issues or something.

    I really wanted to bf all my kids until they were two, but they all self weaned before that except for the twins who are nursing hardly at all any more. I know that I will never nurse an 8 yo or probably even a 3 yo, I don't know if I would be comfortable with it or not (well, I know I wouldn't an 8 yo) but I do know how it feels to be judged for just trying to do the best thing for my kids and it sucks!
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    Post by AtownPeep Tue Mar 29, 2011 12:13 am

    I don't think there is a standard age to stop breast feeding, but if I had a baby and decided to breast feed I probably wouldn't go past the age of three. By that time, I would want him or her to start getting used to not being so emotionally and physically reliant on me for sustenance.
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    Post by CatEyes10736 Tue Mar 29, 2011 1:47 am

    At this point I am 51/49 about whether or not I'll nurse (with nursing having a slight edge) when my baby is born. I'm not a "lactivist", but I am interested in what the experience is like, and it is healthier for both the mother and baby. At the same time, nursing isn't always convienant or even practical. I have a friend who nursed her child until she was 2 and a half, and for the first year or so, the child wouldn't easily accept a bottle, which made it difficult for her to have others babysit. Personally if I do decide to breastfeed, I wouldn't go past age one. I certainly wouldn't go up to age eight.
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    Post by Marc™ Tue Mar 29, 2011 2:30 am

    In the video, the woman said something about how "they won't breastfeed forever....they won't breastfeed when they go to college, or get married". Really? Is THAT her cut off point?! Umm....yeeeeaaahhhh....

    When my twins were infants their mother breastfed them. At the time, I made a half-hearted case for Gerber, but didn't push....it was her decision, and she seemed bent on it....so hey....

    At around 9, 10 months she stopped and from there they got the spoon/bottle. There is no way I would support having my 8 year child still nursing. The fuck? Nah...
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