The argument of whether or not to spank is one that is typically divided. But should parents avoid punishing their kids, period? As in no time-outs, no 'go to your room,' no going to bed without dessert? In a blog post for the "Today" show's website, Jillian Lauren writes that she and her husband never punish their 3-year-old son – ever.
http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/04/22/6501676-why-we-dont-punish-our-son-ever
Instead, when he misbehaves, she shifts her focus "from his behavior to the needs behind it."
"I attempt to meet those needs with love and empathy. I also attempt to help him identify his feelings by putting words to them," she writes.
Lauren says the point is to "increase his emotional intelligence" and "give him tools to deal with the fact that it is incredibly frustrating to not get what you want in life." She also says their strategy creates "good behavior in the long term."
"Punishment might get results in the short term, but it ultimately undermines your relationship with your child and hurts their self-esteem, which will only fuel the fires of misbehavior. I believe that treating my son with respect and empathy will in turn teach him to be empathetic and respectful, which are traits that I value far above mere obedience," she explains.
Do you think this woman is onto something here? Or is she totally nuts?
http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/04/22/6501676-why-we-dont-punish-our-son-ever
Instead, when he misbehaves, she shifts her focus "from his behavior to the needs behind it."
"I attempt to meet those needs with love and empathy. I also attempt to help him identify his feelings by putting words to them," she writes.
Lauren says the point is to "increase his emotional intelligence" and "give him tools to deal with the fact that it is incredibly frustrating to not get what you want in life." She also says their strategy creates "good behavior in the long term."
"Punishment might get results in the short term, but it ultimately undermines your relationship with your child and hurts their self-esteem, which will only fuel the fires of misbehavior. I believe that treating my son with respect and empathy will in turn teach him to be empathetic and respectful, which are traits that I value far above mere obedience," she explains.
Do you think this woman is onto something here? Or is she totally nuts?
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