Say a really close friend of the opposite sex asked you to go half on a baby, would you?

If you were approached by a opposite sex friend who wanted to have a kid with you, would you do it?

I can't imagine something like that. I'd want children with a man I was in love and in a relationship with, not a really good friend.

AtownPeep wrote:I can't imagine something like that. I'd want children with a man I was in love and in a relationship with, not a really good friend.

I'm going to agree with this. The idea of "going 1/2 on a baby" sounds like a business proposal to me. I couldn't do it. If a male friend of mine wanted a child so bad, I'd wish him well but I couldn't be his partner.

Chris wrote:If you were approached by a opposite sex friend who wanted to have a kid with you, would you do it?

It depends, I have been approached on this subject a couple of times, the last being a female couple. I wanted a guarantee that the kid would know I was the father and they could not give me that so I gave them no deposit. Since we are supposed to be friends I would first make sure that these friends are parent worthy and then I would want an active part in the kids life, if not no dice.

If I said yes we would have to have a contract drawn up because this would be too easy for a guy to wind up getting taken for more money than sperm.

I would (depending on how much I cared about her, and how she looked). But yeah, there'd HAVE to have some sort of legally binding agreement stipulating that I don't get squeezed for child support after she popped it out.

SecHandNews wrote:

AtownPeep wrote:I can't imagine something like that. I'd want children with a man I was in love and in a relationship with, not a really good friend.

I'm going to agree with this. The idea of "going 1/2 on a baby" sounds like a business proposal to me. I couldn't do it. If a male friend of mine wanted a child so bad, I'd wish him well but I couldn't be his partner.

It does sound a little too cold and formal. Not to be insensitive, but I can't see ever be so desperate for a kid that I'd consider such a proposition. It'll either happen by chance within the confines of a relationship, or not at all.

Doyen wrote:If you were approached by a opposite sex friend who wanted to have a kid with you, would you do it?

Totally.

I'd seriously consider it, but it would have to be based on how much I knew and respected said friend. I'd love to have kids someday. I see nothing wrong with collaborating on a baby if both people really want a child, especially with many babies are conceived by accident.

Just my 2cents.

Sure... men waste their knuckle children every day with porn and kleenex... if some good friend wanted desperately to have a kid and asked me this favor, why not let her have those few squirts?

This question is probably better suited for a man than a woman. Personally, I couldn't imagine going along with such a scenario…I am not a baby dispenser who could just pop a child out as a favor for someone else.

Nhaiyel wrote:This question is probably better suited for a man than a woman. Personally, I couldn't imagine going along with such a scenario…I am not a baby dispenser who could just pop a child out as a favor for someone else.

I agree with this. They would have to be a really, really good friend - and I would have to be really, really desperate single & desperate for a child - to even consider such a thing. Even so, I couldn't ever be a surrogate mother. Carrying a baby to term as a favor and then handing it over once it's born. I'd get too attached.

I considered being a surrogate for a dear friend and her husband. And I would have been a traditional surrogate, not gestational. I am so happy that it did not work out because their marriage did not work out, though my friendship with the intended mother has stood the test of time. Looking back on it, it is an amazing blessing that nothing happened with it. I offered, not being emotionally ready for it to work out that they would divorce. I think that would have been so awful.

Either way, it is not a situation to tread on lightly.

I'm at that point where IF i wanted a child, I'd have to have it now. Not having a partner would mean that I would be better off having a friend who REALLY wants a child than not having one at all or going to a sperm bank.

Let's face it, if the guy was approaching me about it, and we'd been friends for most of our lives, then I would probably know/trust him more than some guy i had only known a couple years right? So yeah

Impact wrote:If I said yes we would have to have a contract drawn up because this would be too easy for a guy to wind up getting taken for more money than sperm.

This is a very important issue and even a contract may not keep the sperm donor safe. Paternity laws were made centuries ago and do not account for modern out of marriage contractual agreements. With DNA confirmation the man could be stuck with child support, despite what he agreed to.

I have thot of it and would have considered it at one time. In fact, I have this feeling that I may have been used without my knowledge. A lesbian friend and I ran into each other in 1980. I was totally surprised that we were embracing as lovers, but OK there really are bisexuals. We fucked several times in the next week then she disappeared from my life, went back to her GF. To this day I wonder if ...

Eh, nah....I think I'll pass.

Nope. ITA that is sounds more like a business arrangement. I'd recommend that my friend adopt. When it comes time for me to have kids, I want to have them with a committed husband who wants to raise the children with me, not someone who's only interested in going halfers.

Chris wrote:If you were approached by a opposite sex friend who wanted to have a kid with you, would you do it?

Yes. In fact, something like that may actually be in the works for me sometime soon.

Oh come on, you know that nobody wants FM's screwed up genes anyway.

Forgiveness Man wrote:Oh come on, you know that nobody wants FM's screwed up genes anyway.

Maybe somebody wants you for your looks. Or your artistic talent. You never know! Would you have to be in a committed relationship to have a kid with someone?

^^^^My LOOKS? That's right, one of the things you never did learn about me is what I look like. I can give you a pass for that one. And my artistic talent? Never knew I really possessed much of that. But no, I ain't making little FM's with just anybody. It's wife only! (*listens to the entire chamber breathe a sigh of relief)

Forgiveness Man wrote:^^^^My LOOKS? That's right, one of the things you never did learn about me is what I look like. I can give you a pass for that one. And my artistic talent? Never knew I really possessed much of that. But no, I ain't making little FM's with just anybody. It's wife only! (*listens to the entire chamber breathe a sigh of relief)

I've seen pictures of you before. You don't appear to be ugly to me (at least from what I could make out). I'm sure some chicks would be into you. And there are many forms of "art". You are a talented aspiring writer are you not?

Don't think I've really posted many clear ones here, aside from the ones of when I was a wee lad. Chicks digging me? Meh, that I find unbelievable. And yes, art comes in many forms. Aspiring writer? Yes. Talented? I don't know many artists who regard themselves as talented. But either way, FM takes parenting very seriously so nope, not just giving out kids to female friends. I am sure they can find somebody with a lot more to bring to the table.