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    'Couple Finally Reveals Child's Gender, Five Years After Birth'

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    Post by Chris Sat Jan 21, 2012 8:06 am

    http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/couple-finally-reveals-childs-gender-five-years-birth-180300388.html

    Couple Finally Reveals Child's Gender, Five Years After Birth
    By Piper Weiss, Shine Staff

    'Couple Finally Reveals Child's Gender, Five Years After Birth' 470_2219341

    It's a boy! And he's five. Beck Laxton, 46, and partner Kieran Cooper, 44, have spent half the decade concealing the gender of their son, Sasha.

    "I wanted to avoid all that stereotyping," Laxton said in an interview with the Cambridge News. "Stereotypes seem fundamentally stupid. Why would you want to slot people into boxes?"

    Laxton, a UK-based web editor, and her partner, Cooper, decided to keep Sasha's sex a secret when he was still in the womb. The birth announcement stated the gender-neutral name of their child, but skipped the big reveal. Up until recently, the couple only told a few close friends and family members that Sasha was a boy and managed to keep the rest of the world in the dark. But now that he's starting school the secret's out.

    For years, Becks has been referring to her child, the youngest of three, as "the infant" on her personal blog. But guarding the public from her son's gender was only part of her quest to let her kid just be a kid.

    Sasha dresses in clothes he likes -- be it a hand-me-downs from his sister or his brother. The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants. In one photo, sent to friends and family, Sasha's dressed in a shiny pink girl's swimsuit. "Children like sparkly things," says Beck. "And if someone thought Sasha was a girl because he was wearing a pink swimming costume, then what effect would that have? "

    Sasha's also not short on dolls, though Barbie is also off limits. "She's banned because she's horrible," Laxton says in the Cambridge interview.

    On a macro level she hopes her son sets an example for other parents and makes them reconsider buying their own sons trucks or forcing their daughters into tights. She's seen how those consumer trappings affect how and who kids play with in the sandbox.

    But the sandbox is just a precursor to the classroom. When Sasha turned five and headed to school, Laxton was forced to make her son's sex public. That meant Sasha would have to get used to being a boy in the eyes of his peers. Still, his mom is intervening. While the school requires different uniforms for boys and girls, Sasha wears a girl's blouse with his pants.

    "I don't think I'd do it if I thought it was going to make him unhappy, but at the moment he's not really bothered either way. We haven't had any difficult scenarios yet."

    Last year another couple, Kathy Witterick, 38, and David Stocker, 39, of Toronto made a similar decision when they had their baby, Storm. At the time, certain psychiatric experts voiced concern over their decision. "To have a sense of self and personal identity is a critical part of normal healthy development," Dr. Eugene Beresin, director of training in child and adolescent psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital, told ABC News. "This blocks that and sets the child up for bullying, scapegoating and marginalization."

    But as parents well know, bullying is hard for any child to avoid. It's more important to raise someone who's confident enough in himself to overcome peer pressure. It's also important to have his parents have his back (remember the mom who defended her son's choice in a Halloween costume?) Maybe Sasha's early years will be character building, maybe he'll have a higher emotional quotient being raised with dual perspectives on gender. Or the reverse could be true: Sasha may have less of a formed identity because of his upbringing, and feel angry at his mom for dressing him in flowery shirts and telling the world about it. Then again, maybe he'll get over it.

    As for Laxton, she says she's open to her son pursing any career or sexual preference he chooses as he matures. "As long as he has good relationships and good friends," she says, "then nothing else matters, does it?"
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    Post by Nhaiyel Sat Jan 21, 2012 12:23 pm

    eye roll @ them keeping it under wraps in the first place.
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    Post by Shale Sat Jan 21, 2012 12:39 pm

    These kind of child-rearing experiments based on some new-age concepts of a genderless society are kinda scary. Hope the child escapes unharmed. Especially when he/she gets to high school. (This is a good case for homeschooling)
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    Post by CeCe Sat Jan 21, 2012 12:47 pm

    Shale wrote:These kind of child-rearing experiments based on some new-age concepts of a genderless society are kinda scary. Hope the child escapes unharmed. Especially when he/she gets to high school. (This is a good case for homeschooling)

    co-signs I don't agree with a lot of the gender based stereotypes-girls must play with dolls, boys must play with trucks, girls play house, boys play superhero. But this went a little above & beyond. These are probably the same type who give birth underwater with the dolphins swimming around. Like you said very new-agey.
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    Post by Wadsworth Sat Jan 21, 2012 9:12 pm

    "I wanted to avoid all that stereotyping," Laxton said in an interview with the Cambridge News. "Stereotypes seem fundamentally stupid. Why would you want to slot people into boxes?"

    Not as stupid as treating the boy like he a game of Clue. Stupid people.
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    Post by FireIce918 Sat Jan 21, 2012 11:53 pm

    This is so utterly stupid.

    A male is a male. A female is a female. If they're so socially liberated, they should embrace and encourage their child's choices REGARDLESS of gender stereotypes and WITHOUT hiding his sex from society. They were so busy hiding him--how does that teach him to stand up for what he likes without feeling pressured to change based on someone else's opinion?

    I feel like they're going to reap what they sow; the child grew up hiding himself, so he will literally feel like he needs to do so. How is that healthy?
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    Post by wants2laugh Sat Jan 21, 2012 11:57 pm

    what i found ridiculous was that they would dress him in a pink girl's swimsuit, but extremely masculine shirts were forbidden!! What if that is what the kid wanted to wear??? To me it seemed like they were saying, "be girlie if you want, but too macho is not allowed". They should be smacked!
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    Post by Impact Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:40 am

    What a pair of new age kooks.
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    Post by Shale Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:50 am

    wants2laugh wrote:what i found ridiculous was that they would dress him in a pink girl's swimsuit, ...
    Nudist children don't have that kind of identity problem. blank stare @ you
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    Post by Nystyle709 Sun Jan 22, 2012 11:10 am

    Wadsworth wrote:

    Not as stupid as treating the boy like he a game of Clue. Stupid people.

    Very stupid. BTW, where you been man?

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