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Tony Marino
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| | Subject: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 4:18 pm | |
| Have you dated jealous guys/girls in the past? I've always thought that jealousy is a negative, undesirable characteristic and I should avoid it. A friend told me the last man she dated told her he's jealous because that's how he should feel about the woman he loves. I don't think I would feel loved by this, I would feel bothered and a bit smothered.
How do jealous lovers justify their feelings? Does anything trigger jealousy or is it a part of someone's personality? | |
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Bluesmama
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 4:32 pm | |
| I think a little bit of jealousy is natural and acceptable. But beyond that it is not only smothering but indicative of immense insecurities.
In the early stages of relationships I tend to get a bit jealous, and I know it's because of insecurities in that phase. Once I'm past that I become quite the opposite. | |
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 6:56 pm | |
| Jealousy may stem from a primitive mating instinct - the one that has two males locking horns & butting heads. In humans I don't find it too appealing and it is not a given to have or show love for someone. In fact, some men justify their controlling pathologically abusive behavior as jealousy.
But that is me, coming from a background of multiple sex partners shared in a small community. What's to be jealous about? | |
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 8:18 pm | |
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 8:34 pm | |
| Extreme jealousy does not equal love. Like Blues said, a bit of jealousy is natural and anticipated. But when it goes to an extreme where it is being voiced constantly, time to get out of that relationship. | |
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Cheaps
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 8:40 pm | |
| - Bluesmama wrote:
- I think a little bit of jealousy is natural and acceptable. But beyond that it is not only smothering but indicative of immense insecurities.
I agree | |
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 9:50 pm | |
| A tinsy bit is okay. Voicing that jealousy over & over, turn off. It reeks of insecurities | |
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RedBedroom
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 10:05 pm | |
| - Artemis wrote:
- A tinsy bit is okay. Voicing that jealousy over & over, turn off. It reeks of insecurities
Well said, Artemis! | |
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 10:15 pm | |
| So then does LOVE = JEALOUSY?
I really have a hard time accepting this. Jealousy = INSECURITY and DISTRUST.
Thinking jealousy is a positive is like saying YOU MADE ME HIT YOU... | |
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CatEyes10736
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| | Subject: Re: Jealousy equals love? Tue May 22, 2012 10:35 pm | |
| It depends on how much they let their jealous overtake their rationale. My BF and I are both possessive of each other and have indicated jealous feelings in certain situations, but we have never let those feelings dictate how we act or treat each other! | |
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