If you've ever had a relative who was disrespectful or cruel to you when they were alive die, did you mourn their death? I had an uncle....my fathers brother....who was tended to rude to me when I was kid. He died when I like 14. I think I felt bad for my grandparents and my father, who were shaken by his death, but it left me blase.

I had family members who were EXTREMELY disrespectful to members of my family, and nope, I didn't give a damn when they died. They did the world a favor when they died. I have some family members that have probably died and we weren't notified... and obviously we don't care considering what they did to other members of our family.

" Goodbye, ya bastard!"

nope. i have been said to be a cold fish cause i could go to funerals and not shed a tear. most of them were just acting anyway, or were being dramatic wanting the sympathy or pity. screw em

Supernova wrote:

" Goodbye, ya bastard!"

Not just family, I have survived several nemeses and have even trashed them in the press because that was the relationship we had when they were alive. Ann Landers was one - that woman was dangerous.

Another was a fat smoker whom I called out for violating the law by smoking in a hospital office. He may have been part of why I was let go at that hospital but fat, sedentary, smoker ain't here any more.

No. Don't find any joy in their death. Just don't give much of a damn. The exception to that might be Anita Bryant. I know a lot of people won't remember her, but the grief that bitch caused is unforgivable. She's still around. Still the same old cow.

Well, I haven't had a relative that's been rude and disrespectful to me....at least not to the point where I would rejoice in their death. I'd prob be indifferent to it.

My side of the family is old and dying off. I will only be upset by my father, brother and step-mother if they go before me. I won't shed a tear for my father's sister (I truly think my father will do an actual happy dance) and I probably won't even find out if anyone else dies. It's very likely I haven't met them anyway. I'm much closer to my wife's side of the family.

I have never had a relative who I had an adversarial relationship with to the point where their dying wouldn't upset me. The closest thing I've come to that is an uncle-by-marriage who I didn't like, but he and my aunt split up nearly twenty years ago and now it's rare that I see him. If he died, I'd feel bad for my cousins, because he's their dad, but I wouldn't personally mourn.

My maternal gandfather hated me, but I was young when he died, and I didn't care and I was a bit happy because he died right before he was to visit us and I was dreading his arrival.

Other than that, I guess I would feel bad for the people close to the desceased.

Kind of on-topic, I just found out tonight that an ex-friend's grandfather died. I do not associate with her and never will, but I feel bad for her tonight.

Haven't been in that situation, but I can't imagine that I would be too broken up over it. More sad that the family was having to deal with the loss, but probably not mournful.