Do you pay up if something happnes when a friend drives?

Say you and your friend are going some place, and the voyage was your idea. Be it a road trip or just a trip within your city limits, but something happens. Like a ticket, a flat tire, or hitting a deer...something that requires them to pay some money. When that something happens, do you offer up some cash to help out?

I normally would, just to be nice. But the one time this happened to me, I did not. We went on a five hour road trip, and it was my idea. She drove, and invited a friend. And the driver was a friend, but not that close. They were here for drinks one night, and I told her that if she drove, I would pay all the gas to go to the Mall Of America. We went a couple weeks after that.

I paid all the gas, which was fine by me. I got pissed on the way home when her husband called and she was chatting with him and in talking about money, she said that she had paid for all the gas. I was pissed because the friend she invited did not pay a dime, nor did I expect her to, but still, that was shitty for her to say that I did not pay, when I had paid it all. I am sure she just said that because she wanted to conceal the actual amount of her shopping purchases.

Anyway, we get so freakin close to home, and she hits a deer. As it was, I did not offer a dime toward her insurance deductible. And I would have, had she not lied to Nick about the gas. And I heard through the grapevine that she thought I was awful for not offering up.

So, what is it that you would do if the driver incurs an expense when the trip was your idea?

It was very tacky of her to take your gas money, allow passenger B to tag along for free, and then claim that she funded the entire trip when she was basically compensated for the whole thing. It was her fault she hit the deer. If something happened: like a flat tire, a toll charge, something that was no one's fault, then I would definitely put some cash on it (I think everyone along for the ride should.) But I'm not going to be responsible for someone else's accident that was the result of their negligence. You did your part. She had no one else to blame but herself.

Just because the trip was your idea doesn't mean you owe her one cent. She's the one who hit the deer. And it WAS shitty of her to claim to have paid for the gas when you paid for it. It's her own fault.

It's not like you were driving her car....she was the one who couldn't miss big ass deer. If that were me, I would be salivating over her daring to say something to me about it.

Red your friend is what I call "full of sh-t". Sorry I don't mean to insult her if she's a good friend of yours, but she sounds very self indulgent and like she's someone who doesn't take responsibility for her own actions. You were good to pony up gas money for the trip, that was all you needed to do. It wasn't your fault she hit an animal.