Does a father's opinion matter in whether his daughter should start having sex? On OLTL this week, Tea talked to her daughter about sex and told her it was her decision. Todd walked in and he was told they were having girl talk. Girls usually talk to their mothers. Shouldnt parents discuss this before a mom gives the daughter permission? or is it something best left for the mothers's judgment?

I don't know, I think it's a sign of less than good parenting if a child can't talk about these issues with both mom or dad. I can understand a boy wanting to talk more indepth with his dad and a girl her mom, but the subject shouldn't be totally off limits with either.

I am of the view that both parents should have the discussion before permission is given. It would not be right for me to find out and then get told mom said it was ok. Although frankly if it was up to me, it would have to wait until she is in college and living away from home.

Where there are two parents and there IS trust, yes, both parents should talk to the kid about it...but you know, I never had a sex talk with my mother and I sure as hell could NEVER imagine having one with my father. But, that's why I'm the responsible one who didn't do it, so there wasn't anything that needed talking about.

Supernova wrote:

Where there are two parents and there IS trust, yes, both parents should talk to the kid about it...but you know, I never had a sex talk with my mother and I sure as hell could NEVER imagine having one with my father. But, that's why I'm the responsible one who didn't do it, so there wasn't anything that needed talking about.

I think I am an approachable guy but I know my daughter will go to my wife before she ever comes to me. After watching that show, I did not know whether I was wrong to expect a discussion before she is given permission. I am glad to see I wasnt offbase.

They should discuss it beforehand, but the Tea/Dani/Dani situation happened after Dani came close to giving herself to Nate, so Tea and Dani's talk was impromptu based on what Tea observed. Fathers have to be prepared for the sex talk when it comes to their girls.

The father is just as much a parent as the mother so absolutely.

I think that a lot of girls would be better off if their dads talked to them about it. I think that it would carry a lot of weight if the dad said certain things about boys and love and expectations.