I saw this posted at a dating site:
I used to work at a bookstore in college, and there was this 'Swingers' magazine that the store carried. Basically a magazine where couples placed personal ads, looking for third parties to join them in bed. One of my co-workers picked it up and looked through it, and said something like "Damn, there's a bunch of racist comments in these ads." I looked for myself, and a number of them said 'No Blacks' or 'No Asians.' I didn't know whether to shrug my shoulders and blindly dismiss it as 'preference,' or to not try and stifle how annoyed I was reading it. Everyone has their tastes and preferences, and what have you, but I think tact is always good. Sometimes you don't say certain things to, or in the vicinity of, certain people.
Ok im going to get on a soapbox for a minute because of some things that have happened to me recently so please forgive the rant.
I know some people are not comfortable with dating outside their race and as Americans, we are all entitled to our opinions, likes and dislikes. My problem is the way its communicated. I have gotten replies back form women that range form very respectful, to downright KKK propaganda. For what reason? If you arent interested in someone, why not just say that politely and move on. However to get "go back to africa", "find a date at the gorilla cages at the zoo", and "what self respecting woman would date a N@#$#@", are uncalled for.
True, everyone is here on this site for different reasons. Some to chat with friends, others to lurk harmlessly in the background, some for the forums, and yes hard to believe but some to actually date. Have we as a society become so numb to others feelings that insults can be flung so carelessly and with so much venom? Have we forgotten that a young lady killed herself over comments made on a myspace page? Im not saying that im so depressed or upset that im thinking thoughts of suicide, but c'mon people, words hurt regardless of age or social status.
I can tell you from personal experience I do my best not to discriminate against anyone based on anything because I am a black male in this society. I just would think after the American people made such a huge statement in the elections, attitudes would have been a tad bit more receptive. Yes we have come a long way, but after whats happened here and on a few other sites to me in the last week or so, I see we as a country, still have a long way to go.
Ok I will step off the soapbox. If my comments have offended anyone I do apologize. That was not my intent. However, if Ive made at least one person stop and think, thats all I wanted. Thanks for letting me rant.
I used to work at a bookstore in college, and there was this 'Swingers' magazine that the store carried. Basically a magazine where couples placed personal ads, looking for third parties to join them in bed. One of my co-workers picked it up and looked through it, and said something like "Damn, there's a bunch of racist comments in these ads." I looked for myself, and a number of them said 'No Blacks' or 'No Asians.' I didn't know whether to shrug my shoulders and blindly dismiss it as 'preference,' or to not try and stifle how annoyed I was reading it. Everyone has their tastes and preferences, and what have you, but I think tact is always good. Sometimes you don't say certain things to, or in the vicinity of, certain people.
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