Relationships With the Unemployed

Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn't have a job? They either couldn't afford to ever go anywhere...OR worse, you had to pay for everything and basically financially support them.

If I could afford to pay for everything and they treated me really well besides that, sure.

I don't really care.

I'm practically a Marxist though, I think $ just complicates things and wish that we didn't need it!

Marc™ wrote:Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn't have a job? They either couldn't afford to ever go anywhere...OR worse, you had to pay for everything and basically financially support them.

LOL.





Actually, this would totally depend on the situation for me. If my boyfriend got laid off or lost his job and he's desperately trying to seek another one and isn't lazy laying around the house all day, I would be understanding and try to help out when I can. If he is being lazy and thinks he's going to be living off of my money, he will have another think coming. If I just meet a guy who is unemployed, then I don't know if any sparks will be flying.

Nystyle709 wrote:

Marc™ wrote:Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn't have a job? They either couldn't afford to ever go anywhere...OR worse, you had to pay for everything and basically financially support them.

LOL.





Actually, this would totally depend on the situation for me. If my boyfriend got laid off or lost his job and he's desperately trying to seek another one and isn't lazy laying around the house all day, I would be understanding and try to help out when I can. If he is being lazy and thinks he's going to be living off of my money, he will have another think coming. If I just meet a guy who is unemployed, then I don't know if any sparks will be flying.

So you don't want a dude like this....

Actually I would be on the other end of this because I'm the one who doesn't have a job at the moment; 5 years in college and still there's nothing anymore avaiable to me now than there was when I got out of high school. That said though, I wouldn't rely on anybody to pay for my stuff, I still pay my own way everywhere I go.

It wouldn't bother me so much unless he was unemployed on purpose. As in sorry, good for nothing, low down, lazy, trifling, mooch. But it's tough out there right now. So I can't hold the lack of a job against anyone.

Marc™ wrote:

Nystyle709 wrote:

LOL.





Actually, this would totally depend on the situation for me. If my boyfriend got laid off or lost his job and he's desperately trying to seek another one and isn't lazy laying around the house all day, I would be understanding and try to help out when I can. If he is being lazy and thinks he's going to be living off of my money, he will have another think coming. If I just meet a guy who is unemployed, then I don't know if any sparks will be flying.

So you don't want a dude like this....

LOL, O.M.G......I haven't heard that song in ages. Well, I did say that he wasn't going to be lazy. If he's going to be catering to me like that, then I might let umemployed Floyd slide a little easier for a bit. However, I'd tread lightly. That might be his way of just pacifying that fact that he don't wanna work.

I couldn't be with a guy who is committed to being unemployed, or is always jumping from one menial job to the next. I'm attracted to men, and men take care of themselves.

Marc™ wrote:Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn't have a job? They either couldn't afford to ever go anywhere...OR worse, you had to pay for everything and basically financially support them.

Don't you think that's following a stereotype Marc? Just because a person doesn't have a job doesn't mean they don't have money. That's pretty ignorant.

But to answer your question, yes, I could be in a relationship with someone who was unemployed. Employment is a superficiality that gets in the way of what's really important, like their personality (a crazy thought, huh?)

MandyPerfumeGirl wrote:

Marc wrote:Could you be in a relationship with someone who didn't have a job? They either couldn't afford to ever go anywhere...OR worse, you had to pay for everything and basically financially support them.

Don't you think that's following a stereotype Marc? Just because a person doesn't have a job doesn't mean they don't have money. That's pretty ignorant.

. I believe the question that was asked also implemented in the fact that said person couldn't afford to go anywhere and you had to financially support them because they had no job. So a person who has no job (but for whatever reason still has money), that automatically removes them from this equation. What's ignorant is how you assume that it's a stereotype that being umemployed is somehow not a factor in not having money.

But to answer your question, yes, I could be in a relationship with someone who was unemployed. Employment is a superficiality that gets in the way of what's really important, like their personality (a crazy thought, huh?)

. EMPLOYMENT is a superficiality?!?! You should NEVER be single then. Since you have no problems fully supporting unemployed Lloyd solely because he has a 'nice' personality, lol.

It all depends on how otherwise active, and independent, they were. I'm not in the market to be anyone's sugar daddy; so if you're unemployed, I hope it's only temporary.

Been there done that twice, bad scene for the one working. Had a boyfriend years ago and I was such an ass I loaned him money, helped him, etc, hardly got any of it back. Years later had a husband who was a mechanic, always arguing with his boss. They would go back and forth. He would get fired, then go back to work months later and the whole thing again. I was paying for practically everything and ended up divorced and bankrupt. No more. No job, no relationship. A person, especially the woman, gets used. Some men like to do that. Learned my lesson.

I really couldn't support a non-worker for long, nor could I let someone support me for long if I was in that situation.

I could do it without a problem and have done it the past. I've never had an issue with money and I really loved the person back then, so I didn't care. We broke up over other issues.

He had better be looking, or at least sitting on a huge trust. I couldn't be with a man who was jobless and content with remaining that way.

She can be unemployed, but I'm not taking her shopping or fronting her cash because all it would do is start bad habits. If she was without a job before we met, then however she was getting money then will be how she continues to.