Are you vain about scars?

I am really not normally. I have a terrible scar from my neck surgery and it doesn't bother me in the least.


I ask because tonight, I am really freaking out about something. The dog jumped out of my son's arms tonight (after son gave dog a butt fur trim, so I don't blame dog) and he really left a bad deep scratch on my son's arm. It is on the inside of his arm so if it scars, I am worried it will forever look like a suicide attempt. Maybe I am just being too nutty, but I don't want him to enter his teens with a scar like that.

And for a little ass dog, that scratch is so deep. It was bleeding red instantly, so it is not a superficial scrape.

Very, which is odd because I only have one and it's not very noticeable, even I'm having trouble seeing it anymore, but I remember all my life I made it all that time without a single one and now I've got one on my arm, and it's not even like I can brag about how I got it. I've been banged up, smashed up, cut up, you name it, and no scars, then I get scratched by a tree branch, and I'm branded for life.

Yes if they're "fresh", I am. Once I see they're healing (fading) then I don't make any attempt to hide them.

I'm not vain about them, but lately I have been more aware of the permanence of them. I used to never think about it, but now that the scars are starting to add up I'm just more aware of accidents and stuff like that and it makes me grateful and sad all at the same time. It makes me grateful that I came away with just a little scar, but a little scared and sad because the scar is evidence that some things can't be undone and some of those things are terrible mistakes that really hurt people or even killed people. Like when that pet snake killed that two year old. I heard the guys voice during the 911 call and it was just sickening the regret in his voice...But he can't go back and undo it. That's the kind of thing that I think about now when I think about scars. They make me sad.

But for your son, use some mederma! That stuff is AMAZING. It really works

Thanks for suggesting Mederma. I thought it was called MederNa, so I am better off to head to the store with the proper name. I KNOW he isn't going to be a fan of my doctoring it up, but I have to.

If it was the top of his arm, I wouldn't care much. But I don't want him to be 15 and have a suicide-ish scar when all he was trying to do is trim a five pound Chihuahua!

Of course, being 11, he was all about the "war wound" and had me take a pic for him to post on FB. If I can link it to here, I will so you can see that it is pretty gnarly for a little dog scratch.

RedBedroom wrote:Thanks for suggesting Mederma. I thought it was called MederNa, so I am better off to head to the store with the proper name. I KNOW he isn't going to be a fan of my doctoring it up, but I have to.

If it was the top of his arm, I wouldn't care much. But I don't want him to be 15 and have a suicide-ish scar when all he was trying to do is trim a five pound Chihuahua!

Of course, being 11, he was all about the "war wound" and had me take a pic for him to post on FB. If I can link it to here, I will so you can see that it is pretty gnarly for a little dog scratch.

Hopefully it would just heal and not scar too much anyway, but better safe than sorry!
That is an awkward place for a scar.

RedBedroom wrote:

Ouch!

I know! And that was right after it, so now it is more raised and maroon instead of red. It looks so awful. I had to chuckle that he put it on facebook, with the heading "Shift Attack after his hair cut" (Shift is dog's name) and one of his friends said, "Maybe you should be more worried about cutting his nails than his hair."

thepossiblepolice wrote:

RedBedroom wrote:

Ouch!

Looks like what the tree branch did to me except it went the other way up my forearm.


Also looks like what a stray cat did to me a few days ago.

Did your tree branch scar? I know you mentioned a scratch...how many years ago was it?

I have a scar on my ankle where I had surgery last year, doesn't bother me I call it battle wounds!

Red, unless it's something shaped like a lightning bolt across the face, most men don't think scars are any big deal. In fact, we usually think they're kind of cool. Like the scene between Richard Dreyfuss and Robert Shaw in Jaws. I'm only half kidding that you could expect a call from the school or social services though because it kind of looks like a suicide attempt. The lad will be fine but I understand you're probably looking at this like "a mother"

Nope. I have a nice sized scar on my left knee from when I skinned it rollerblading when I was 13. That scar is almost 15 yrs old and it never bothered me.

RedBedroom wrote:Did your tree branch scar? I know you mentioned a scratch...how many years ago was it?

Yeah that was the one, it was last October.

alan smithee wrote:Red, unless it's something shaped like a lightning bolt across the face, most men don't think scars are any big deal. In fact, we usually think they're kind of cool. Like the scene between Richard Dreyfuss and Robert Shaw in Jaws. I'm only half kidding that you could expect a call from the school or social services though because it kind of looks like a suicide attempt. The lad will be fine but I understand you're probably looking at this like "a mother"

At 15, if it really looks like an attempt scar he can use it to get sympathy attention from girls. Most males do not attempt suicide (Sorry mom, but they succeed) so it is likely no one will even associate that scar with anything other than another scar on a boy.

Shale, I agree that reporting a suicide attempt is far fetched. I was only "half kidding" because of the tendency for people to overract about things that we didn't think twice about not that long ago. Like kids getting in trouble at school for shooting imaginary aliens (space not illegal) with their finger.
Sorry, didn't mean to

Animal nails can be brutal. But Red, I think that will fade in a fairly short time. I wouldn't worry. Just tell him to not pick at it.

I am vain about scars. What you should do Red is have him put bio-oil on that. That should fade it off.

Bio oil? I will have to look that up.

Thanks for the words of comfort! I can be so nutty about some things, and this has me going.

CeCe, I have told him over and over to not pick, but I just know that when it starts to heal, and scabs he is going to.

RedBedroom wrote:
CeCe, I have told him over and over to not pick, but I just know that when it starts to heal, and scabs he is going to.

I'm the same way, they're just so annoying.

RedBedroom wrote:Bio oil? I will have to look that up.

Thanks for the words of comfort! I can be so nutty about some things, and this has me going.

CeCe, I have told him over and over to not pick, but I just know that when it starts to heal, and scabs he is going to.

Tell him if he does, you'll make him wear these

LOL, Alan!! Will do.

But what do I do when he is at school??? ha ha.

That was part of the threat. He'd have to wear them to school too. maybe just poke a couple of holes so he can grip a pencil. Peer pressure is a powerful tool. Use it wisely!

I just was reading an (almost) unrelated story. Does anyone remember "Baby Jessica"? As a toddler, she fell 22 ft. down an 8" diameter well and paractically the whole country was glued to their TVs for 2 1/2 days while she was being rescued. Anyway, I just read that she just turned 25 and now has access to the almost $800,000 trust fund that was set up for her from all the donantions people sent in. In 2002, she told Ladies Home Journal that talk of her "incident" bored her, and she took pride in her scars. "I'm proud of them," she said. "I have them because I survived."

http://www.aolnews.com/2011/03/27/baby-jessica-turns-25-gains-access-to-trust-fund/?icid=maing%7Cmain5%7Cdl1%7Csec3_lnk3%7C52009

I'm with scars as long as they aren't long or thick. I have a small scar on the side of my face that used to bother me.