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alan smithee wrote: I got laid.

Shale wrote:

alan smithee wrote: I got laid.

Had to one-up me didn't you!

Shale wrote:Bought a new TV


For the past 6 years or so, I have had a 20-inch RCA TUBE TV.

I figured with all the DVD's I watch I should have a better view, so I went and got a 32 inch flat screen.

It fits my small apt well.

My daughter and her husband drove me to BrandsMart to get it and she hooked it up and walked me thru the ops of it. (I could have done it - EVENTUALLY by myself, but better when someone with more experience sets it up.) Actually the thing programmed itself like a computer when hooked to the cable and my regular channels showed up in the right order, unlike me having to set them manually in the old RCA.

So, what did you do today?

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

alan smithee wrote:

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

alan smithee wrote:... Hey - know what always makes me feel better? Getting laid!

Tony Marino wrote:... I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

alan smithee wrote:I got laid.

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

RobbieFTW wrote:

alan smithee wrote:I got laid.

I thought we said we weren't gonna tell anybody!!!

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

alan smithee wrote:That's what uncles are for my Nephew. You obviously had a shitty day. Hey - know what always makes me feel better? Getting laid!

Shale wrote:

Tony Marino wrote:... I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

This has got to be ruf, working thru such deep-rooted issues. Do you have a support base in dealing with this? Just do what you feel is right - but don't force it to where it harms you. I think a non-involved therapist could probably help.

RobbieFTW wrote:

alan smithee wrote:I got laid.

I thought we said we weren't gonna tell anybody!!!

Chris wrote:Yesterday my Internet connection went down in the early afternoon. I called my cable company, and was routed to customer service for my ISP, and we spent nearly an hour troubleshooting. Finally, she decided that she couldn't help me, but concluded that it was a problem with the router (which had no power at all, and all the lights on it went dead.) She then tells me I would need to get a new router from the cable company; the problem with that, though, is that it was Sunday and the cable company was closed all day. So I spent most of my day wandering around, annoyed that I couldn't get online. Staring at that damn router, practically cursing at it. To make matters worse, I go to work this morning, so I wouldn't have been able to get to the cable company until after.

I went to sleep last night hoping that by the time I woke up the thing would have start working on its own. No such luck. I woke up, and it was still dead. I fiddle around with it, looking at the power cord, and on a whim decide to replace it with another one that looked similar that I had in the drawer. And surprise, surprise, it worked.

I can't help but wonder why some cosmic force wanted me to be offline all day Sunday.

RobbieFTW wrote:

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

I don't have to imagine, because my dad is the same way. He was always ashamed of me and cruel and abusive, calling me names and humiliating me in front of others. Now he just shuns me when I'm the one that should be shunning him and maybe I do. Maybe its mutual cause I do shun him too, but guess what HE has no right to since he's the dad. Its his responsibility to always be willing & wanting to have a connection with me, despite how I feel! He isnt a nice guy to anybody really but he wasnt as harsh to my brother & sister and he treats his kids w/his 2nd wife better. I'm 25 now and he cant boss me around like he used to but on the rare occasion I see him he still gives me nasty looks and talks to me harsh, that's if he's not deliberately ignoring me. I know exactly why he hates me but I wont get into it. Just wanted to say I know exactly what you mean. Grateful my mom, stepdad and sisters & brothers love me despite him. You're better than me Tony cause when he's old I wont be the one taking care of him and if he ends up alone in a flop house, he will deserve it.

Tony Marino wrote:

Chris wrote:Yesterday my Internet connection went down in the early afternoon. I called my cable company, and was routed to customer service for my ISP, and we spent nearly an hour troubleshooting. Finally, she decided that she couldn't help me, but concluded that it was a problem with the router (which had no power at all, and all the lights on it went dead.) She then tells me I would need to get a new router from the cable company; the problem with that, though, is that it was Sunday and the cable company was closed all day. So I spent most of my day wandering around, annoyed that I couldn't get online. Staring at that damn router, practically cursing at it. To make matters worse, I go to work this morning, so I wouldn't have been able to get to the cable company until after.

I went to sleep last night hoping that by the time I woke up the thing would have start working on its own. No such luck. I woke up, and it was still dead. I fiddle around with it, looking at the power cord, and on a whim decide to replace it with another one that looked similar that I had in the drawer. And surprise, surprise, it worked.

I can't help but wonder why some cosmic force wanted me to be offline all day Sunday.

Couldn't you have bought a router in Radio Shack rather then spend a thousand dollars from the cable company? Radio Shack sells a good router for like 30 bucks.

Chris wrote:

Tony Marino wrote:I spent most of the day with my father, he is bedridden now and I had to make him comfortable so his nurse and home attendant would be able to wash him properly so he stays clean. He has been sitting in a medical recliner that I bought for him and I had to pick him up in my arms and put him in bed. I felt really sad, can you imagine holding your father in your arms knowing that this man never loved you or cared for you and now you are literally his father! When I came home I thought of all the years I was so unhappy with this man and how so many of my friends and relatives have such loving fathers and I got stuck with the rotten apple. I cried for a little while, I guess I was feeling sorry for myself. I cried because I don't want to dislike my father but I just can't help it. I really wish that he had been more of a human being rather than a monster.

We love you Tony. And, while I can't speak for your father, as a father myself, I have to wonder/hope that at least a small part of him loves you more than he is able to reveal, for whatever reason that may be. Not to make an excuse for him, but some men (particularly those from an older generation) just have this inability to bond with and/or express affection with their children; and in the meantime react in a bitter manner when they see their kids cling to their mother, and have a relationship with them that they never could. You said that you and you mother were close, perhaps it was seeing that that made your father jealous and created his indignant reaction in him where you're concerned, because he could clearly see who *you* always preferred, and (due to his attitude) it wasn't him.