If someone you were dating revealed to you that they had had dozens–hundreds even–of sex partners before meeting you (but were disease-free, with the paperwork to prove it), would you feel comfortable in continuing to date them?
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Would you date someone who had been promiscuous before meeting you?
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Dozens? OK. Hundreds? I think not.
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Chris wrote:If someone you were dating revealed to you that they had had dozens–hundreds even–of sex partners before meeting you (but were disease-free, with the paperwork to prove it), would you feel comfortable in continuing to date them?
Would I date someone like me?
To avoid being a hypocrite I suppose I would have to.
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Alan Smithee wrote:Dozens? OK. Hundreds? I think not.
Yep. I don't think I would want to date a male Superhead.
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No I wouldn't. If not because of health risks, then because I don't think I'd be able to trust that someone who had been around the block that many times is able to commit, or even respects relationship and intimacy.
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IDK, Altho I didn't have sex with a extreme amount of ppl, I did do 29 women from 1964 to 1980 (and 16 men).CatEyes10736 wrote:No I wouldn't. If not because of health risks, then because I don't think I'd be able to trust that someone who had been around the block that many times is able to commit, or even respects relationship and intimacy.
I hooked up with Brenda in 1980 and she was the only one for the next 18 years.
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Sure. What they did before doesn't matter, so long as they're clean....and convince me that wanting to settle down with me is where they're at now.
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I don't know. It might make me uncomfortable. If they had an excel spreadsheet of their health exams to prove they are healthy maybe but I doubt it.
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Nope. I'm not interested in a car that already has 80,000 miles on it when I first get it.
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Marc wrote:Sure. What they did before doesn't matter, so long as they're clean....and convince me that wanting to settle down with me is where they're at now.
Not really one to hold someone's past against them.
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No. I would not feel comfortable. That is the question, right? Would I feel comfortable. No I would not.
I would not hold their past against them, I just would not date them.
I would not hold their past against them, I just would not date them.
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CatEyes10736 wrote:No I wouldn't. If not because of health risks, then because I don't think I'd be able to trust that someone who had been around the block that many times is able to commit, or even respects relationship and intimacy.
ITA with this. I wouldn't be comfortable with it.
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CeCe wrote:Marc wrote:Sure. What they did before doesn't matter, so long as they're clean....and convince me that wanting to settle down with me is where they're at now.
Not really one to hold someone's past against them.
I'm going co-sign this one too. People DO have the propensity to change.
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I expect most men to have gone through a promiscuous, or randy, period…but a man whose sexual history boasts dozens-to-hundreds of partners is more than likely a user of women, and probably has had some crazy chick drama mixed in there a few times. So no I wouldn't be interested in him.
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Nhaiyel wrote:...a man whose sexual history boasts dozens-to-hundreds of partners is more than likely a user of women, ...
Shale wrote:IDK, Altho I didn't have sex with an extreme amount of ppl, I did do 29 women from 1964 to 1980 (and 16 men).
I hooked up with Brenda in 1980 and she was the only one for the next 18 years.
So, I'm the exception and there are no other men like me?
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Alan Smithee wrote:Dozens? OK. Hundreds? I think not.
Yea i think hundreds would be too much for me to be comfortable too
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Me and my godbrother were having this conversation a few weeks ago and I casually asked him how many girls he had slept with. He told me about 140. Now I knew he was somewhat of a man whore...but for some reason, that number boggled me. Then I did the math: he was really wild back in high school and he lost his virginity at 12. Ten to fifteen girls (sometimes more) a year sine you were 14 and you're 32 now? That's about right. At the very least, it ain't hard to accumulate that tally.
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I don't think I would be comfortable. Like somebody else said, I would fear commitment issues, or not knowing how to really carry on a relationship after the newness wore off.
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