Stumbled across this website and found this
http://www.ismyspousegay.com/11-signs.asp

#7 kinda contradicts (or clashes with) #9 and #11, but it was interesting and I thought I would share.


Top signs your husband is gay

1. Suspicious non-verbal communication with other men -- a look, a touch or hug that lasts a little too long or seems to be intimate.

2. Possession of homosexual pornography (videos, magazines, photos stored on his computer). If your husband has consistently viewed homosexual pornography, on the computer (check the history in your internet browser!) remember that he probably would not be doing this if he did not enjoy it. It is simply too risky an activity to merely "check out".

3. Your husband's inability to be sexually aroused by you. If sexual activity steeply declines within the first few years of marriage, or if you're always more sexually aggressive than your husband, don't think it is all your fault!

4. An abundance of male friends with whom he seems to be too close or too familiar. Watch out if your husband spends too much alone time with one man or a small group of men. This is a sign that perhaps your husband is gay. At the very least, you can suspect that he is involved with his male friend(s) with a level of intimacy that he should be saved for you. Trust your instincts if he spends a great deal of time with one man or a few without inviting you to the party. If you really feel as though something strange is going on, there is probably a reason.

5. Lots of phone calls from other men. If they are men you don't know or men that your husband does not willingly tell you about (such as an old friend from high school who happened to get in touch with him), be concerned.

6. Buying or receiving expensive, intimate, or overly personal gifts from other men.

7. A consistent overreaction to anything concerning gay men -- extreme homophobic behavior. If your husband turns almost militantly angry when confronted by someone who is gay, it may indicate that your husband is gay. This doesn't make sense at first, but take a minute and think about it... People often lash out at those who embody traits they do not like about themselves. They are in fact empathizing with that person, but it doesn't come across that way.

8. A strong preference for non-typical sex.

9. Unusually high percentage of male friends who are gay. Watch out if your husband's new best friend is gay!

10. Male friends who are overly friendly.

11. A tendency for your husband to brag about gay men complimenting him on his looks.

Some of those items seem really 'basic,' almost generic.

MarQ-Boogie wrote:

These "signs" actually make no sense because being a gay male I know plenty men who are on the low and none of these apply to them.

The women may have gotten smart but the men have gotten smarter.

This may be true, but there's the saying that "there is no such thing as the perfect crime". At some point, the down low man is gonna forget to dot an "i" or cross a "t". When that happens I guess it will depend on how perceptive his woman is about noticing it, but people selling secrets & lies are bound to slip up and overlook something, and one of those items listed may leap out like a snake.