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    Do you hold grudges?

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    Post by Chris Thu Aug 26, 2010 7:17 am

    How long do bad feelings linger in your mindset before you're willing to squash them?
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    Post by Nystyle709 Thu Aug 26, 2010 10:09 am

    It's funny, I keep saying that I want to hold grudges against people but it never works out that way. Most petty shit to hold grudges over, I don't even care about. So I get over things quick. You'd have to do some really fucked up shit to me for me to hold anything against you. Now, it in heat of a serious argument, I might bring it up and it'd solely be to hurt you or piss you off.
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    Post by Tony Marino Thu Aug 26, 2010 11:05 am

    I try not to hold any grudges for any length of time unless someone does something really bad to me.
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    Post by Supernova Thu Aug 26, 2010 11:46 am

    Oh hell yes. People say forgive and forget, I say when the other person is dead, THEN I'll forgive them, but until then, hell no.
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    Post by Forgiveness Man Thu Aug 26, 2010 1:44 pm

    Eh, yes and no. I try to like a person who is willing to change but I am not so eager to just let things go cause once hurt, I am not the most willing to trust again. So I guess I hold a little bit of a grudge, even if I do try to let them go whenever possible.
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    Post by TSJFan4Ever Thu Aug 26, 2010 2:51 pm

    Hmmm - usually not too long, I guess - it depends on how deep the hurt is. I don't know if it would be a grudge, so much as working to forgive a person in that case but if it's something really deep, it takes longer.
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    Post by MandyPerfumeGirl Fri Aug 27, 2010 9:49 pm

    I hold grudges, big time! If someone wrongs me, I never forget it - ever. I may get over it or forgive after a short time if it wasn't something too bad, but forget? Never. But if someone does something really horrible to me, I will never forget and I will never forgive.
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    Post by Marc™ Fri Aug 27, 2010 11:59 pm

    Years....
    I may forgive or I may forget....but I usually won't do both.
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    Post by BlackPantherGod Sat Aug 28, 2010 5:27 am

    I don't like to hold grudges because they're damaging to my spiritual health.

    That being said, I recently held a MAJOR grudge against one of my former best friends for about six months because she was spreading very vicious rumours about me. However, the day before yesterday I decided that holding all that hate in my heart was just unhealthy, so I forgave her.
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    Post by Chris Sat Aug 28, 2010 5:49 am

    I try not to. I think most people who make a habit out of holding grudges unconsciously think that their internal anger somehow negatively impacts the person their angry at. In the words of Madea, "you're carrying around all that stuff, while they're sleeping at night."
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    Post by Nystyle709 Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:13 pm

    Chris wrote:I try not to. I think most people who make a habit out of holding grudges unconsciously think that their internal anger somehow negatively impacts the person their angry at. In the words of Madea, "you're carrying around all that stuff, while they're sleeping at night."

    Perfecto. Unless they stole from you or slept with your woman/man or something.....what exactly is there to hold a serious grudge on somebody for years over? You might not think so, but you're wasting more energy doing so than not. Pretty ironic considering that you 'supposedly' hate the person you're mad at.

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