Women who stay in abusive relationships...

UMo wrote:

AtownPeep wrote:I don't like the idea of blaming the victim. No one should be mistreated and there are variables to every situation. If you're a housewife with 3 or 4 kids and no credit or much work history, and in the meantime your abusive husband is making 300k a year and everything (specifically the bank accounts) is in his name then that complicates matters. Sometimes it's not as simple as just walking away.

Usually it IS that simple. It only becomes complicated after she's spent 5, 10, 15 years with him and brought four kids into that muck. You can't tell me that the first time he hit her, back when they were dating, that she couldn't simply walk away.

I do have a lot of sympathy for these women who're victims of their abusive relationship. It's true that no one should be mistreated. It takes a lot of climbing and clawing to get out of a bad relationship you've been in for 10 years and after they've been beat and battered, their emotional state is no doubt even more shattered their their abused body. But I have to this. WHY were you not wise enough to get out the very first time hands were laid on you in anger? After 10 years of this, she's emotionally submerged in all the abuse she endured and walking away isn't easy, I can imagine. But I just am perplexed by why she didn't say NO the very first time she was hit.

Exactly, the first time a guy hit me, I'd hit him back and drop his sorry ass.

All of these "I would" statements...

They're easy to say now because it's all theoretical.

Supernova wrote:Only as long as you let him control you. As long as you're willing to be dominated and have no life or freedom of your own.

You should be embarrassed by this post.

Rockbird wrote:

Supernova wrote:Only as long as you let him control you. As long as you're willing to be dominated and have no life or freedom of your own.

You should be embarrassed by this post.

My mother put up with it for a couple of years before she finally got fed up with it and walked out, and her husband had threatened to kill her and her baby and dump her body, he did it all, and she still finally said 'then do it because I'm leaving' and she did leave and put her life back together.

Rockbird wrote:All of these "I would" statements...

They're easy to say now because it's all theoretical.

Well if anybody were to hit me, my instinct would not be 'oh they're nice, I should stay with them'.

Supernova wrote:

Rockbird wrote:All of these "I would" statements...

They're easy to say now because it's all theoretical.

Well if anybody were to hit me, my instinct would not be 'oh they're nice, I should stay with them'.

You think I didn't think those same things? It just makes you look ignorant. Out of all the offensive remarks I've read on this forum, your holy-than-thou attitude in this particular thread disgusts me. I don't wish domestic violence on anybody, but maybe you should experience it first hand and then you'd understand it.

Done with this thread. Just wanted to post this:

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Rockbird wrote:All of these "I would" statements...

They're easy to say now because it's all theoretical.