Your Opinion of Premarital Sex

Forgiveness_Man wrote:@Robbie: I'd argue it harms the couple doing it, albeit in a non-physical way. But I don't necessarily judge things by how much they hurt people. Frankly I think that's a dumb excuse to put pleasure over right and wrong. But yeah, aside from morals, I think it definitely hurts the couple in non-physical ways.

What's wrong with only one lover in your life? Better one good lover than a bunch of forgetful ones. I'd even argue we're physically designed for one person. IMO, multiple lovers is trying to fill a void of something else lacking. I think it's sad that there would even be a need for multiple lovers in one's life. If one is not content with that one special person, I can't help but be sorry for them cause I really think they're setting themselves up for an empty existence.

JM130ELM wrote:Can you imagine only eating one person's cooking your whole life? It's great when someone finds that one who they're willing to commit to for the long haul and get married, and I don't champion promiscuity (banging any and anything that moves) but there's nothing wrong with two unmarried people who're dating to have a sexual component to their relationship.

The idea of waiting for marriage to have sex is antiquated and basically stupid to me. You spend all that time being sexually inexperienced, then when you finally find a spouse you're as sexually green as a grass. What if the two of you turn out to be sexually incompatible? They like this, you don't like that...you like this, they don't like that. That's gonna be a fun (and quick) marriage.

That's if you get married. What if you never do? Do you then grow old never having sex and then dying a virgin? How depressing.

Nystyle709 wrote:Would you ever marry again if you ever became a widow?

JM130ELM wrote:Can you imagine only eating one person's cooking your whole life? It's great when someone finds that one who they're willing to commit to for the long haul and get married, and I don't champion promiscuity (banging any and anything that moves) but there's nothing wrong with two unmarried people who're dating to have a sexual component to their relationship.

The idea of waiting for marriage to have sex is antiquated and basically stupid to me. You spend all that time being sexually inexperienced, then when you finally find a spouse you're as sexually green as a grass. What if the two of you turn out to be sexually incompatible? They like this, you don't like that...you like this, they don't like that. That's gonna be a fun (and quick) marriage.

That's if you get married. What if you never do? Do you then grow old never having sex and then dying a virgin? How depressing.

Nystyle709 wrote:
Yeah man, humans are naturally sexual beings. That's been proven. I find it funny that people who are against it act like sex is a bad thing. Sure, if a person is ill informed and irresponsible when it comes to sex, there could be a problem but having a healthy sex life is not a detriment. Maybe if people got some on a regular basis, they wouldn't be such a tight ass.....literally. But oh well, whatever floats your boat I guess.....

CatEyes10736 wrote:Nothing wrong with sex in a relationship. Or sex, period. So long as you're not hurting anyone, then hey...do what you enjoy.

Dan70 wrote:Part of the reason society is so sex crazed is because it's equally as sex-phobic. Fostering the notion that premarital sex is some kind of a NO-NO turns it into the forbidden fruit that many then become desperate to taste.

Wadsworth wrote:All that anti premarital sex "it's a sin", "it's wrong" shit is is a way to push marriage on people. Get married and that be ya "REWARD" for taking part in this old ass dated institution called marriage. . You get to fuck. Ooooh

Dan70 wrote:Part of the reason society is so sex crazed is because it's equally as sex-phobic. Fostering the notion that premarital sex is some kind of a NO-NO turns it into the forbidden fruit that many then become desperate to taste.

Coming from a strictly religious background, I have seen God-fearing, finger-wagging, "sex-outside-of-marriage-is-a-sin" orthodox types who love to "disapprove" of this and that, while secretly indulging in seedy sexual activity on the side. Why? Because they were taught to see sex as something shameful and repressed their natural lust to the point where it creates clot that explodes. These are the types that protest and posture against smut by day, while getting caught by cops with their pants down in a car with prostitutes at night. These are the types of parents who are uber strict with their teenage daughters, make them cover every inch of their bodies, don't allow them to have "boy phone calls", and still they wind up pregnant at 15. Once more... when you repress natural urges, they have a tendency to magnify... and in catastrophic ways.

If two people know and respect each other, and share a desire of the flesh, then why the hell should they have to wait for a ring or a piece of paper? That's archaic and borders on senseless. There's nothing wrong with sex. We're put here to have it. Yes there's more to life than it, but let's not pretend as though it isn't a fundamental part. It was man who declared "rules" about confining it to marriage.

Fuck, if you really wanna know... my position is more laxed than that! So long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, if it feels good... do it! If you want to bang a different chick every night, go buy an economy pack of condoms and have at it.

Forgiveness_Man wrote:

That would be a pretty foolish question to answer since I could never say for sure what life would hold either way.

Nystyle709 wrote:
It's just a question man. Answer it. Would you rather be alone for the rest of your life if you ever became a widow? How is that foolish? It's hypothetical question. You don't mind answering all the rest that are posted on here, answer that one. I have an idea of what you're answer would be, but I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt and establish it yourself.

Forgiveness_Man wrote:You asked me if I would ever get married again if I became a widow and I told you I couldn't answer. There are too many variables. I don't like giving concrete answers to any question with this many variables. I wouldn't rule out either option.

FM and Supernova are the biggest freaks in the world eh? Resorting to insults to get your point across again? Don't worry, I don't mind being a freak when it means watching all the non-freaks self-destruct.

Nystyle709 wrote:That would be your answer then. LOL, you're full of shit. Hypothetical questions are just that. It's about what you think you would do if you were in that situation. It's not that hard. I think even you are starting to see how ridiculous you sound sometimes. You dance around a subject when it's not convenient for you.


That wasn't an insult. I actually meant that in the good way. Stop being a tight ass.